an interview with porn star kayden gray

It was an extremely busy and energetic Friday night, with crowds of people racing in and out of the tube station ready for a night of fun frolics and adventures. Walking nervously with my notepad in one hand and my interview notes in the other, you could say I looked incongruous to the mise-en-scene around me.

I arrived at Milk & Honey, a lavish London bar in Soho, a venue signposted as ‘the place to be’ by London locals. I was here to interview the famous and extremely sought-after adult performer and model, Kayden Gray. Prior to our meeting I had a misconstrued perception of Kayden, mainly due to his career choice. I'd assumed he would be hostile and haughty; however I was pleasantly surprised after meeting him. He is cheerful, charm personified and actually quite ‘normal’ considering he works in the explicit sex industry. When you meet Kayden, it gives you a clearer insight into the nature of his soaring popularity; he has over nineteen-thousand followers on Twitter! Tall, dark and handsome are just some of the words you would use to describe him, as well as owning a superbly sculptured physique. These are composite parts needed for the lustful sex industry fans and thankfully Kayden has all these commodities.

The Polish-born-an-bred porn star has made quite an impressive name for himself since his debut in 2013. Gray seems to be everywhere in the adult industry, with his burgeoning popularity amongst industry professionals becoming apparent, which is probably inevitable when you’re an incredibly good-looking man with a very impressive-sized manhood, the sine qua non of porn. He's worked with leading directors and top porn stars including Paddy O’Brian and Lucio Saints, as well as being nominated for Hottest Porn and Best British Stud at the Prowler Porn Awards 2014; a prodigious achievement for a 29-year-old.

I wanted to look in depth at love and relationships as a working porn star. I visited London, a city that absorbs both beauty and determination like a sponge. It's no surprise the industrious adult performer and his quixotic appeal is serving him very well. But does a porn star essentially experience the same relationship difficulties as less taboo professions such as doctors or even a hairdresser? I delve deep into the subject, asking Gray the critical questions we all want to know. I also uncover some scintillating secrets as he audaciously admits to having sex in a car, on the motorway, at 100mph... With the driver!
  

Q: Hello Kayden. Congratulations on all your success. Can you tell us how you became a porn star?

Thank you. I was initially approached by one of the British studios, but it quickly became apparent I wasn't ready to actually star in adult movies. It took me about six months to make the decision and in December 2012 I applied for Lucas Entertainment, who I shot my first scene with a couple months later. Then shoots with Men.com, Tim Tales and UK Hot Jocks followed. I was lucky to shoot with big names at the very start. It's gave my career a really good pace.

Q: Has being a porn star ever affected your past relationships?

I've only had one relationship since I started performing in porn. Relationships are generally rarely easy, and that's whatever it is you do. I'd definitely say porn added additional complication to an already difficult situation. But I know people for whom it doesn't seem to complicate anything.

Q: Would you say being a porn star has helped or hindered when it comes to dating?

 

It has certainly increased my popularity. I haven't actually tried dating anyone since that one relationship but I don't see what being of any help on the dating front.   

 

Q: Would you ultimately give up porn if a partner asked you too?

At the moment my career goes way before the idea of having a partner. When I meet someone I care about enough I'll think about it. But it is possible that I would quit and likely that I wouldn't have to be asked to do so. I've had a pretty great career and would have to be very secure in that relationship to consider giving it up.

Q: So would you date a fellow porn star?

Possibly. To say yes or no would be a case of generalisation or stereotyping and I try to avoid that.

Q: Does the stigma attached to 'porn stars' affect you in social situations, for example in bars/clubs?

It used to affect me more. It still could I guess, as people react to the fact I do porn in a variety of ways, but I've had some time to learn how to deal with it so not much anymore; once something's been said like a thousand times you kind of don't hear it anymore.

Q: How do you keep your sex life exciting?

I let my inhibitions fall away and introduce things that fascinate me into it.

Q: What is your favourite sexual position?

I don't have one. I like to fall into them spontaneously.
Q: Where is the craziest place you've had sex?

In a car on the motorway at 100mph... With the driver!

Q: How do you prepare yourself for an upcoming shoot?

 

Before a shoot I make sure my body is worked out, skin is clear, hair is cut and styled, nails are short and clean. All that so that I feel confident. I take care of those things on a regular basis of course, but I take extra care when I know I have a performance coming. There is an element of pressure when it comes to shooting so I also try to have as much sleep as I can the night before so that it doesn't get to me. A lot of models 'save up cum' for the day. I usually do to, but sometimes I can't seem to be able to do that; kind of a forbidden fruit situation there. To a shoot I arrive fresh, clean and always sober, ready to make magic! 

Q: What are your future aspirations?

I would like to have my own studio in a couple of years and shoot my own material. In the meantime I'm planning to gather the experience and funds that will help me achieve that goal.

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